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Some of the media I have been on/in… I was 15 years old when I was on the Jenny Jones show. A girl I met on a beach in Florida wanted to reunite with me after our summer fling. See how the insight behind the book began… INTERVIEW FOR MY BOOK ON “THAT’S LIFE WITH ROBIN SWOBODA” ON WJW/FOX IN CLEVELAND, OHIO INTERVIEW FOR MY BOOK ON “JOHN CARROLL UNIVERSITY UP CLOSE” INTERVIEW FOR MY BOOK ON WOIO/19 ACTION NEWS IN BEACHWOOD, OHIO
INTERVIEW FOR MY BOOK ON WAFB/CBS IN BATON ROUGE, LA
GREAT STORY BY COED MAGAZINE HERE
‘How to approach’ online dating
Single soldiers hoping for an online liaison may want to take note of some hints offeredSingle soldiers hoping for an online liaison may want to take note of some hints offered by a website. Writing for CNN, a relationship expert known as the Frisky has listed some of the main things men should avoid when trying to woo a lady over the internet. The source noted a man should not divulge too many of the skeletons still locked up in his closet, such as an ex-wife, or to be over eager as this could raise alarms regarding desperation. Males should make sure their online profiles are accurate and will not mislead prospective mates, while being too picky about who they go for is also a no-no. The specialist added users should avoid being overly keen, as women may fear they have a stalker on their hands. Another person to have recently offered dating tips is the author Scott Gralnick, who advised men to show self-confidence combined with a good sense of humour. Posted by Mark Wilkins 
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Love advice from a Cleveland author
Scott Gralnick seeks deal on new book, “How To Get A Girl In A ‘95 Corolla”
By Janet Nguyen
Metromix February 9, 2009 He’s doesn’t consider himself an expert, but 23-year-old Scott Gralnick believes he has a pretty good idea about what women really want in men. The Beachwood resident recently finished writing a guide on how to meet women—”How To Get A Girl In A ‘95 Corolla.” Gralnick describes the yet-to-be-published book as a “no-gimmick” way for men to meet women that includes different methods and advice for approaching women in a variety of settings such as a wedding, beach, coffee house or even while shopping. The book, he says, will teach men how to successfully introduce themselves in a tactful and creative way. “I get the guy the first meet,” said Gralnick. “I show guys how it can be done in so many different places.” Metromix caught up with the young writer to find out what advice he has to offer Cleveland’s single men just in time for Valentine’s Day. The currently single author is pitching his book to publishers including Random House and Harper Collins with hopes that his work will help boost men’s confidence across the nation. So, what? You think you’re some kind of love guru? Not necessarily a love guru, but I’ve taken my time to observe human nature and women and understand how society works. Within that I’ve taken the opportunity to give men the know-how to approach women in any situation. Tell us Mr. Love Guru, where do you think is the most romantic spot in Cleveland? In front of my fireplace, with a bottle of wine, listening to some nice music with the lights off while watching the flickering of the fire bouncing off the face of the beautiful woman I’m with. Do you have a date for Valentine’s Day? I haven’t thought about it yet because I’m very spontaneous. So, we’ll see what happens. There are a few girls who could pick me for Valentine’s Day … but I’m keeping my options open. What would be your ideal V-Day celebration? That’s a pretty tough question. It depends if you’re new with a girl, like if you just started dating this girl, opposed to if you’ve been with her for a long time … it depends. I’m going to say if you just started dating the girl, take her out for a night on the town to a few different places. Start off with cocktails, go to dinner, maybe go to a comedy club and maybe a nice romantic dessert afterward and keep the night going—change it up a bit. If you’ve been with her for a long time, maybe cook up one of her favorite meals at home and make it a romantic evening of silence and coziness … something more relaxing. For guys who may not already have a Valentine’s Day date, how do you suggest they get a date in just a few days? Go to a place that they enjoy. If they see a girl they think is pretty, walk up to her, introduce yourself … and since you’re at a place that you already enjoy and they’re at the place, you then have a common factor that you can talk about. Start talking about it, gain her interest and then sincerely ask her out. You say it’s not good to meet women at a bar or grocery store … why? Well, not that it’s not great to meet women at a bar or grocery store, I just advise against it. At a bar, women expect men to hit on them because the media and society has overplayed that so much in movies and TV shows and every aspect of media. So women have in their subconscious, in the back of their mind, “I’m gonna get hit on so much tonight.” The obstacles you have to overcome at a bar so fast … you have to prepare for her to be irritable because how many guys have hit on her … you have to make yourself stand out from every other man. It’s just not the greatest way to do it. At a grocery store, the best way to do this is … if you’re one of those men who go to a grocery store because you think you’re going to meet women there—don’t even do it. Just stop. Turn around. Don’t even go there. We think bars are great! Do you have a few favorite bars in Cleveland where you don’t meet women? La Cave du Vin. It’s a nice, low-key wine bar. What makes it great is that Eric and Ian, the guys who run the place, are very knowledgeable with their wines as well as their beers. They make the whole experience for you. I also like to go down to Chagrin Falls. There’s also a nice wine bar down there. That’s a really cool little spot. Plus you’ve got the waterfalls out there. If I want to go more downtown life, I really like Pickwick & Frolic. You can make a whole evening out of it: dinner, a comedy club, the ’60s go-go bar and the champagne room. For the single guys out there, where do you think the best places are to meet women? The best place to meet a woman is just by doing things they truly enjoy. So if they love reading books, go to a bookstore and meet a woman at a bookstore. If they love hiking or the outdoors, go hiking more often and just look out for women out there. If you really like riding your bike, go biking or join a biking club. If you like playing sports, join a sports team. Whatever you really enjoy doing, find someone who enjoys doing that the same way. Why meet someone at a bar? It’s so (impersonal.) So how many girls have you wooed in your 1995 Toyota Corolla? I have not found the woman of my dreams yet … the one I like to marry. Are you avoiding this question? Per se. I don’t want to be like, “yeah, I get so many women.” That’s arrogant.
CLEVELAND MAGAZINE ARTICLE
Article from Cleveland Magazine Flirting for Fun 
On the road to love, Scott Gralnick is the guy driving the crappy car. But that hasn’t slowed his crusade to get us back to finding that someone special the old-fashioned way — you know, without using the Internet. 
Scott Gralnick’s first rule for getting a girl is to conveniently forget to mention he’s written a book called How to Get a Girl in a ’95 Corolla. The rest of us don’t have to worry about that. Unfortunately, few of us are as smooth as Beachwood’s 24-year-old “bachelor by choice.” Gralnick strolls into Caribou Coffee all wavy hair and two-day beard. Despite it being after 2 p.m. on a Sunday afternoon, he sincerely wishes me a good morning and asks how my Saturday night was. His, of course, was crazy. He pulls out his camera and is disappointed. He’s already downloaded the pictures from last night. He doesn’t even want to tell me about it. He says I wouldn’t believe it. But Gralnick has not hauled himself here to talk about his late-night exploits. He has real concerns. Mainly, that no one talks to one another anymore. His sister has even signed up with an online dating service. He’s disgusted. “So many people rely on technology,” he says. “They don’t know how to meet people anymore. They want to text. They want to send Facebook messages. Technology has gone too far.” Now, he’s on a mission to spread his alternative to online dating: talking to people in real life — like face-to-face — without e-mailing first. Gralnick says he knows that anyone over the age of 30 will laugh at his advice because it sounds so basic. Then again, if no one over the age of 30 used online dating, it wouldn’t be the industry it is today. Yes, all of us could use a refresher. “Meeting [people] is not tough,” he says. “It’s about simple interactions, things that everyone can do: smile, make eye contact, say ‘hello,’ be kind, be sincere, be honest. But if it’s so easy, I guess more people would do it.” And that’s why his yet-to-be-published book doesn’t belong in the self-help aisle. That’s too tame. No, this is really a full-throttle kick in the ass. Gralnick doesn’t come out and say it, but his argument goes like this: If a guy from Beachwood driving a rusted car made before Monica Lewinsky was an intern at the White House can meet women, what the hell is wrong with you? So, I ask him to show me first-hand how it’s done. He approaches a blond woman pondering her choice of drinks. After a few minutes of talking, he walks away. “Pink is her favorite color,” he reports. “I saw she had on a pink shirt, pink socks and a pink bracelet. I complimented her bracelet, and then we got to talking. She’s here to study.” “But you didn’t get her phone number,” I protest. “She’ll remember me,” he says. “Shouldn’t we be at a bar?” I ask. “Absolutely not,” he says. “Women know they’re going to get hit on at a bar. Who knows how many drinks she’s had? Who knows how many you’ve had? It’s just a lot more work.” Yes, Gralnick understands that fear pushes people behind computer screens and rejection is harder to take when it’s face to face. But this isn’t asking that middle school crush to go with you; this is adulthood, damn it. Rejection is part of life. Just like his love life, Gralnick hasn’t yet accepted an overture from a publisher that he says is interested in the book. He doesn’t love the idea of commitment. He has a wandering eye. He’s hoping to land a deal that’s a little more lucrative. He dreams of a movie someday. Ironically, he’s been keeping people apprised of the book’s progress via a Facebook page, facebook.com/95corolla. In the meantime, he’s already thinking about hitting the road next summer and taking his message on a cross-country trip. “It’s trial and error,” he says of making his approach work for you. “Well, a lot of error. You have to fail and be willing to make a fool of yourself. But get used to being yourself. Never lie. And …” “And?” “She just looked at me,” Gralnick says. “The girl in pink. She pointed to me when she left with her friend. … She’ll remember me next time.”
Tips from a smooth operator
By ARLENE FINE Senior Staff Reporter
When Scott Gralnick bought a beat-up Toyota a few years ago, he had no idea it would improve his social life and work its way into the title of his upcoming book How to Get a Girl in a ’95 Corolla: An Alternative to Online Dating. The outgoing, self-confident Gralnick got the idea for the book when he spent a six months in Israel after high school graduation. When Israeli guys his age admitted to having a hard time talking to girls, “I told them they had to have confidence, a sense of humor, and not be afraid to embarrass themselves,” he says. “The worst a girl can do is say no, and if that happens, you can go on to the next girl. Eventually they would meet a nice girl to date.” When his advice worked, one of his Israeli buddies suggested Gralnick write a book about dating. A few years later, he did. “My book teaches both sexes how to be more observant (of body language) and to approach the opposite sex in a sincere way,” he says. “The trick is to smile, make eye contact, and don’t try too hard – just be yourself.” Although he plans to self-publish his book, Gralnick is already talking to magazines such as Heeb, Playboy and COED about publishing excerpts. A potential Hollywood movie deal is also in the works, he says. Locally, he has appeared on The Robin Swoboda Show and was featured in Cleveland magazine. The next year will take Gralnick on media tours across the country, but he will always call Cleveland home. “I moved back here when my mom was ill, and after she passed away in 2007, I stayed in town so my dad would not be alone,” he says. Gralnick, who likes to write in coffee shops, particularly Caribou Coffee at LaPláce, is working on his next series of books. His ultimate goal is to make enough money to open a cancer clinic in Israel. “We are here to help others and to be kind to one another,” he says. “That is what it is really all about.” afine@cjn.org Name: Scott Gralnick Age: 24 Status: Single Current residence: Beachwood Alma Mater: Beachwood High School Everyone knows: I drive a ’95 Corolla that has a lot of character. Not everyone knows: I was flown to Chicago to be on Jenny Jones talk show when I was 15. Favorite sport: Chess Favorite film: “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” Favorite TV show: “Saved by the Bell” Favorite music: Oldies and classic rock
Scott!!!!! I’m so so proud of you!!! Can’t believe it!!!! You are doing great. keep up the good work!!!! Becky